Why do people all of a sudden feel miserable when they see others playing with the “toys” they want to play with? This question takes me back to youthful days. I remember all too well observing a toddler occupy himself and using his imagination while playing with the toys that were given to him. He seemed content, quiet and carefree; until another child walked into the room. All of sudden an outburst is heard throughout the house and he began to cry.
What happened? It seemed the child that entered the room either had a toy or a game that the other wanted to play with. It’s not that the toy was better. The child simply wanted something different and believed he needed it in order to be happy.
Life was good until a new, shiny object entered the room.
It’s unfortunate that as time passed the behavior remained the same for most adults. Many know the feeling all too well of wanting what others have instead of finding contentment with what they currently possess.
Yes, there is an old phrase that is familiar to many individuals, “The grass is greener on the other side.” The problem is not that you aren’t doing well in life. The trouble is that when you see someone with something you want, you believe that your life could better.
This way of thinking causes many households to make irrational decisions leading to financial, marital, and employment anguish.
To answer the question, “Why do people compare their life to others?” Simple. They believe what others possess is better than what they own until they are able to seize the ownership for themselves; the curiosity will continue and cause an out of control downward spiral effect.
The desire to have it all can cause debt accumulation and infidelity of finances and marriage.
It’s important to realize that what you possess is for you. There will always be something perceived to be better than what you have, but it doesn’t mean that it is designed for you. Attend to what you own to make sure that it continues to find joy in your life.
Bahiyah Shabazz is the founder and CEO of both Shabazz Management Group and Fabulous & Money Savvy. She has appeared and given financial advice on various media outlets, and is the author of Women Building Wealth.